You wrote, "I don't know if I was knocked off balance, as I did come back
with several questions. The thing that disturbed me was not that they
didn't see instantly what I was trying to say, but rather that they
wouldn't inquire into my reasoning."
Okay. You would like others to inquire into your reasoning when they have
You said, "Unfortunately the participants were the management team I work
with on a daily basis, which has changed the dynamics of our relationship.
I have a bit of a reputation as being a heretic, and to them my comments
were nothing more than profound validation of that fact."
Okay. It bothers you when others interpret your words in a way justifies
their existing negative views of you.
You wrote, "Later that evening I talked to one of the managers there and
privately expressed my frustration with the lack of inquiry. His comment
was, 'Ben, your constantly challenging traditional business wisdom; you
always want to examine assumptions, and point out blind spots; your so
esoteric and eccentric that nobody knows how to relate to you. Dumb it
down a bit, and things will work out.'"
Your reaction to the manager was, "In other words, stop thinking and act
like everyone else and things will be OK. . .they may have a point about
relatability and eccentricity, but that's where it stops. . ."
I wonder if you already held this view of the manager, and his words were
nothing more for you than a profound validation of that view. I also
wonder whether you inquired into his reasoning.
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