Ronald Carter writes in part -
> Rol Fessenden writes: "I wonder why is there so much anger out there?"
>
> Perhaps this is only _MY_ answer. I suspect not.
>
> There is no single factor in my mind which creates anxiety/ rage more than
> unfulfilled expectations."
>
> Your suspicions are correct, at least by "one more". I too am harboring
> many angry/blaming feelings toward management. I too am prompted to find
> new pastures.
Other posts concluded that blaming people or management was not the
thing to do and does not contribute to solutions. This same thinking
can be applied to our personal feelings at work.
1- none of us were hired to judge our bosses, only to work for them,
and all of us volunteered for our job.
2- our boss' performance is to be judged by his/her boss, not by us.
3- our performance degrades if we decide to judge our boss rather
than concentrate on doing our own job. A positive attitude and great
enthusiasm are our greatest assets and judging your boss is a road to
a bad attitude, not a good one.
4- the serenity prayer tells us that the only way to serenity is to
have the strength to change those things we can change, the courage
to accept those things we cannot change and the wisdom to know the
difference. We must accept our bosses, not attempt to change them.
5- the Golden Rule, the way to success in all things, would indicate
that getting upset at our bosses is a violation of this Rule.
6- a sense of perspective would indicate that getting angry with a
boss is making a mountain out of a mole hill. If you were angry
because you were forced to live in Rwanda, I would understand. But
being angry because of what your boss does to you in the U.S.?? Give
me a break. The situation does not warrant it. Besides, in the U.S.
you have the freedom to go elsewhere.
7- since we are humans, our creator gave us the power to choose our
actions and reactions. Why would anyone choose to be angry? It upsets
your bodily functions, makes you hard to work or live with, is bad
for your spouse and children, degrades a better life and makes more
problems and no solutions. These kind of choices are detrimental to
us and our loved ones far more than they hurt the bosses or the
company.
8- when the going gets tough, the tough get going - they don't get
mired down in feelings and anger and anxieties.
Why are so many people angry? I would say because we look harder for
things to excuse our feeling bad than for actions by which to make a
better life. It is the difference between seeing the glass half empty
or half full. We seem to have turned away from the success path of
optimism in favor of listening to the dark side, the "Oh poor me's",
the "I'm only human" crowd. We don't seem to value respect for
others, humility, compassion, forgiveness and charity since if we
truly did, we would rarely attempt to justify being angry or having
anxiety over what our boss has done. I have made these errors, but
was fortunate to be helped out of them.
Someone on this list talked of blue collar people who felt that they
should pay attention to doing what the boss wants since he is paying
the bill rather than sit around and judge what is going on as white
collar people do. It is rather obvious to me which of these
approaches will result in more successful behavior for the person and
the organization. Is it obvious to you?
Regards, Joan
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