I do believe that we must all take responsibility for our
own actions. I don't think that stops people from being
victoms. A person beatton, raped, killed can accept (except
in the latter case) all the responsibility that they want,
but they are still victoms. Also, it will not stop the
negative feelings. It's processing the information and
learning to deal with it that may take some time.
-- John Belfrage <firstname.lastname@example.org>