O.K., I know this is stretching it, Bernie, but your last word in the post
about Exceptional meetings caught my eye and my imagination. You ended
with the following sentence,
"Not that I want to create any more jargon, but rather better
to understand the nature of this self-to-other transcendancing."
My tendencies toward the unusual led me to read the last word not as
transcendance-ing, but rather "trance-and-dancing" as I sounded it out.
Then my mind began to play with that thought and it seemed to fit more
than I expected. What happens in an exceptional meeting, a thirty-minute
exchange of ping-pong shots, a particularly marvelous evening with a close
friend or lover is that a state of trance--mutual entrainment--is built
and in that space and place, the people involved dance together in an act
We all did this as infants connecting with our mother, father, siblings,
and the world around us. We did it as kids at play in the world of our
imagination and of our friends. We did it as we fell into infatuation and
sometimes love. We passed it along as we were reminded of it by our
children in their natural wisdom and longing for connection. And we do it
as we find willing partners at work, after work, and "on-line".
We create and explore worlds of unexpected beauty and pain, recollection
and discovery, surprise and resolution. And then we do it all over again
for the first time....
O.K., O.K., maybe this is just playing with "myself", and not the heart of
the matter after all. But thanks for the invitation to explore for a
moment and the opportunity to play with what I found "together".
It could lead, perhaps, to trance-formation of a larger sort....
-- Tobin email@example.com