The questions being offered to "overcome resistance" all sedem to have a
common unstated assumption: That the change should not be changed. That
is, they all are ways to overcome resistance to something that exists
rather than ways to explore what's possible.
Following the lead of Milton Erisckon (the exploration and development of
hypnosis and a developer of human insight) I do not like to accomplish the
same result twice over by the same means.
However, one approach to situations that would normally be "overcoming
resistance" is to get alignment that there is an unwanted gap between what
is present and/or occurring and what is possible. Then to explore what is
possible and, from that exploration develop how to pursue the
possibility. (This is not a recommendation for "backwards planning".)
At its best, this exploration will allow those pursuing it
to decide that there is no "gap" or that there is a gap but that it isn't
going to be pursued by one or more of the individuals involved in the
dialogue.
This process will have to be repeated as long as the issue is one of
choice. And as many times as there is "resistance" while choice is still
an issue. When action has been taken, systems changed, and integration
accomplished _then_ resistance is no longer an issue because it "just is".
There comes a point in the operation of a community or a living system for
individual items within that community where the only choice left is how
to relate to what is. After total integration, there isn't even much
choice about that - it just doesn't come up.
Remember when the seat belt laws first came in? Many "resisted". After a
while, it became what we did but some of us retained the right to grumble.
Finally, its just what we do and we don't even think to grumble anymore.
--
Mike McMaster <Michael@kbddean.demon.co.uk>
"Postmodern society is the society of computers, information, scientific
knowledge, advanced technology, and rapid change due to new advances in
science and technology." Postmodern Theory, Best & Kellner